Take a quick look at these lists ... does this sound like you?
- You’re not kind to yourself (that inner critic just won’t quit)
- You’re short-tempered with your spouse and kids
- You say yes when you want to say no and regret it later
- You live with hurt from past wounds
- You find yourself numbing and distracting yourself
- You do so much but never feel like it's enough
- Source your happiness from inside
- Find your calm, confident center in the midst of chaos
- Ask for what you need and say no with less guilt
- Cultivate closer and more connected relationships
- Release the need to be constantly busy and “productive”
- Finally feel like you don't have to hustle for your worth
If yes, you're a perfect fit for Self-Love Basecamp ... you can skip scrolling and click to join!
(it's only $97/month and you deserve this!)
You’re trying to do so much, for so many, and at some point, something’s gotta give.
And usually that something is us.
We — women — give so much that eventually, we give up on our dreams, or we physically, mentally and emotionally give out.
What we don’t do is give ourselves the time, space and care we need.
Don't feel bad if this doesn't feel easy. Truth is, it can feel incredibly hard, like trying to climb your own personal Kilimanjaro. Nothing in our society is set up to support us in taking better care of ourselves.
Our society glorifies busyness, idealizes productivity and sanctifies self-sacrifice.
And we, women -- we're losing it.
We know we’re overwhelmed. We see our families and relationships suffering. We see ourselves suffering. So why can’t we course-correct?
Because there’s something deeper at play here.
Something that goes to the very core of how we decide what is and isn’t of value.
The truth is that we sacrifice ourselves by over-doing and people-pleasing because our sense of worth is based on what we DO and what other people think about us.
Sound about right? Until the past five years, it was for me, too. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way anymore.
I’m Deb Blum, Self-Love + Authenticity Coach and I've coached moms for nearly a decade. Whether they're entrepreneurs, leaders in their communities, working a day job, stay-at-home moms or some combo of them all, these women look like they’ve got it together, but are overworked, exhausted, and still never feel like they’re doing enough, or doing it right.
They come to me feeling:
- Dissatisfied
- Resentful
- Unsupported
- Unappreciated
- Anxious
- Restless, always looking for something else
- And guilty — even though they do so much!
And, they suffer from workaholism, do-it-allism, and wondering “is this all there is?”
The worst part:
They’ve abandoned themselves to keep the peace, sacrificed their authenticity for acceptance, suppressed vital truths and plastered over them with a smile and an automatic “yes" (or an automatic "no")
If this sounds all too familiar, I want to let you in on something.
When you scratch the surface, these are all actually symptoms of two interconnected problems:
A lack of self-acceptance and a lack of self-love.
A lack of self-acceptance and a lack of self-love are the root causes of most of our suffering. And the answer is more complicated than self-care.
I wish I could say it’s as simple as taking an hour of “me time” to read a book in a bathtub.
It isn’t.
To love yourself and find yourself inherently worthy of *your* time, focus and energy, so you can lift yourself out of burnout, have time to play with your kids, feel desire for some nookie with your spouse, and make the mental space for plateau-breaking revelations in your business…
...all of that requires a journey into deep inner work.
Here's where I invite you to join me on a Self-Love Journey, a truly magical adventure.
Along the way, you'll be:
- Understanding what it means to cultivate an intimate relationship with yourself
- Getting what to do instead of just filling inner emptiness with outside validation, new things, changes, food, etc.
- Learning to identify and listen to your needs (maybe for the first time in years, or ever)
- Setting boundaries, so you get what you need and avoid exhaustion and burnout
- Healing your deepest wounds that keep you playing small and spreading yourself thin
- Reconnecting with your emotions, which you tend to shut down to avoid hurt
- And coming to love all aspects of yourself, especially the ones someone told you were unlovable
This is the journey out of overwhelm and exhaustion. And it is a trek. A real climb filled with breathtaking views you've never seen before. And to reach the summit, you’re going to need support.
So much healing can happen within a community of women who share your challenges (and your aspirations)
I created Self-Love Basecamp to give women a place for guidance and community with other women who are actively on the path to deepening their relationships with themselves, claiming their worth, and finally feeling more than enough.
This journey isn’t just about learning how to prioritize yourself, how to have more energy for your life and loved ones, or even how to expand your capacity for joy. Really, it’s about changing the world.
What do you think would happen if all women, everywhere, learned to accept and love their whole selves?
Whole families, multiple generations, could heal their traumas.
Whole communities would feel the impact of a wave of genuine generosity, from women in the fullest expression of their power.
Whole systems could be recalibrated to better serve humanity, when women refuse to accept any less.
It’s up to us to take the first steps for ourselves, so we can begin these ripple effects outward.
On this self-love journey, we'll develop the skills to:
- Find your calm, confident center in the midst of chaos
- Source your happiness from inside, rather than from other people or circumstances
- Streamline your commitments, so you have more energy and joy
- Ask for what you need and say no with less guilt
- Release the need to be constantly busy and “productive”
And so much more.
More love, more deep friendships, more integrity, more excitement, more control over your life, and more peace.
That’s what we’re doing here. We are standing together to challenge the dominant paradigm and reclaim ourselves.
And...
Here’s the crazy thing…
You’ll cultivate the ability to be truly selfless and joyfully generous, improving the lives of everyone around you. Because, only when your needs are met can you fulfill the needs of the most important people in your life — without resentment.
With your whole heart.
Are you in? (I really hope you’re in!)
A Bit More About Self-Love Basecamp
While on the self-love journey, we need a basecamp, a place to go that's safe, where we're with others with shared goals and where we know we'll have what we need to venture out in our lives. From this place, we courageously take risks to get closer to our goals. And we inspire one another to push our edges and go a little further.
Imagine a virtual fire circle where we gather to share stories and support as we prioritize ourselves, love all of our parts, and work to live authentically.
Membership in Basecamp includes:
- Monthly Q&A / Discussion on Zoom
- Monthly Zoom Guided Adventures (with me or a guest guide)
- Private Facebook Group to share and get support
- Mon-Fri prompts
- Free access to masterclasses and women’s circles
- Access to trainings, worksheets, practices, meditations and talks in the Self-Love Training Zone
- Listening and accountability buddies (optional)
- Discounts off group & individual coaching + courses
And what's your investment?
- $97/month or $997/year (14% savings)
If you’ve noticed this happening in your life, then Self-Love Basecamp may be exactly what you need:
- You’re not kind to yourself (that inner critic just won’t quit)
- You’re not kind to other people (you’re short-tempered with your spouse and kids)
- You’re more reactive than you’d like to be (tiredness and busyness take a toll)
- You live with fear, anger, and hurt from past wounds every day
- You find yourself numbing anxiety and depression by eating/drinking/shopping/working
It doesn’t have to be this way anymore.
Come join us in Basecamp and let’s climb together.
Have a Few More Questions?
These are some of the questions people most frequently ask us:
How Active Will This Group Be? How Much Time Will It Take?
This is a journey where you can set whatever pace you need. Sometimes, you’ll want to climb high and fast, and you’ll be more involved, more committed to the lessons and meditations. And other times, life happens, and you may need to slow down. Lessons, meditations, events and exercises will be in the Training Zone (resource area) so you can find what you need, when you need it.
That said, the more you engage and the more time you spend, the more you will get out of this experience (and the better the experience will be for everyone). I do recommend that you only join if you are ready to commit to yourself and the other women in the group.
What's Your Coaching Style?
As you can probably already tell, I'm not a superficial kind of a coach. I like to dive right in! I can be playful and fun but I can also be intense and say what need to be said. I'm genuine, bold and sometimes unconventional. And compassionate too! I will push your edges and ask you to explore territories that may surprise you. But I will always hold you so lovingly in my heart, I will accept you deeply - often before you accept yourself, I will see the beautiful truth of who you are and all of your potential - even when you can't see for yourself. I don't really know how to do things half-way, I give 1000% so my challenge is to not overwhelm you! I set up the Training Zone so I could create content and you can go in there and find what you want without the pressure to "keep up." I encourage you to read some of the testimonials below so you can learn more about me.
I’ve already done a lot of self-work and shadow integration. Is this still for me?
You can be at any stage of your self-love journey. That is what makes this community of women so magical — some are self-love veterans with wisdom to share, and some are brand new, just starting their journeys. Wherever you are, you are welcome. If you're already on this path, you know that we heal in layers so even when we learn something again, it's at a new level.
Will There Be Individual Coaching?
I'll be in the Facebook group often, answering questions, providing support and jumping on Facebook Lives. We’ll all come together at least once per month on a Zoom call where I will teach, answer questions, guide you through inner exercises, and provide some support.
If you need more support, I offer discounted (for SLBC members) 1:1 coaching in my Courage to Climb or High Altitude programs which may be ideal for you.
Will there be structure and accountability to make sure I get my ‘self-love’ work done?
I’ve structured the program to be flexible enough to respond to what the group needs, but also have planned practices, exercises, journal prompts, questions, meditations, and opportunities to connect with one another to deepen your understanding around topics. I'll support you to find accountability buddies to cheer each other on and make this work part of your regular practice.
What if I Don't Like the Group?
You can cancel your monthly membership anytime you wish. If you're not sure, I encourage you to start on a month to month basis. If you decide you really like it, you can always signup for the annual plan to get the discount. But you'll love it ;)
Why a Membership Program and Not a Course?
If you want to go through some sort of "program" where you're walked through the specific steps to get from here to there, this may not be the right fit for you. This is more like a journey where you learn a new way of being - where each day you learn to be more you, to be more self-directed, to know what you want and need, to stand in your worth, to heal and grow, to awaken to all of who you are and love yourself. My job is to point you back to yourself - for you to trust yourself, know that you have everything you need inside of you. I do need to teach you another way of doing life, another way to BE, but you are your expert and I will do that in our Zoom calls and in videos that I put into the Training Zone. I'm always watching for entry points and trailheads to guide you to the bits of information that will tell us more about you, to discover exiled and abandon aspects, to connect the dots and bring together the pieces into a whole picture - the picture of YOU!
I've always had a vision where I was sitting on a park bench and a woman comes by, sits down, we talk, and in some small way, I help her to fall a little bit more in love with herself, inspire her to live more true to herself, give her permission to show up a little more fully. What this illuminated for me is my desire to help, my commitment to each of us loving ourselves and being more authentic...and my naturally generous way of being. I also want everyone to have access to support, not just those with abundant financial resources.
People say that we should love ourselves, but most people don't know how to do this. None of us have been taught how to love ourselves - in fact, we've been taught the opposite. But self-love IS gettable. I'm pretty convinced this is a life journey, not something you can learn in 6 easy steps. Hence, a membership group :)
Interested, but still not sure?
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